Starting To Realize

If you’re anything like I was going to the gym to workout is not a priority. I would tell myself that I didn’t need to go because I worked all day. In my line of work I am always moving around and constantly bending squatting and crawling around on the floor. I also only live two blocks from work so I would either walk or ride a bike to work everyday. To me I was getting enough exercise everyday so why should I go to the gym? I thought that there wasn’t anything that I could do at the gym that I wasn’t already doing. I told myself that the gym was just going to charge me money for something I didn’t even need. If all this was true then why was I out of shape? Why was I gaining weight? Why was I so tired after work? Why couldn’t I walk home after work without feeling like I needed to stop for a rest? Like I said I only lived two blocks from work but didn’t feel like I could make it. After I got home from work I didn’t have the energy to do simple tasks around the house. I felt like I needed to rest for an hour or two before I could do anything. Why was I feeling like this if I was getting the proper exercise that I needed? The answer is because I wasn’t. I had a distorted thought process of what exercise really was. I had to change my perspective and had to get into the right mindset. The person that I asked for help without him even knowing hammered it into my head that what I thought about working out was harming my life. I’m so thankful that this person was willing to help because it literally saved my life.

After I got into the right mindset and changed my perspective I started going to the gym. I wasn’t sure what to do so I just started with things that I knew. Walking on the treadmill ridding on the bikes. I would to some weight lifting machines. It was painful to actually see just how out of shape I was. There were things that used to be able to do that I couldn’t even come close to doing anymore. One day while at the gym I saw one of the signs that was hanging on the wall that said “you belong” and after that I couldn’t get that phrase out of my head. The next day I saw another sign that said “in the end it’s all about you.” It was like the gym was speaking to me. That’s when it started to sink in. It didn’t matter that I didn’t know everything there is to know about working out. It didn’t matter that I was using the twenty pound weights. The only thing that mattered was that I belonged there because I was doing what I needed to do to get back into shape and in the end it was all about how I felt about myself.

Were there days that I didn’t want to go to the gym? Absolutely, but I had to remind myself why I started, which had to be a constant reminder everyday. There is a saying that says “you shouldn’t look back at where you were,” however the person that helped me talked about this in one of his posts before. He said that this path is a journey and we need to enjoy it. We also need to look back from time to time to see just how far we’ve come. We need to use things that we’ve overcome from our past to help motivate us on our journey forward. I’m not saying that I’ve overcome everything that I need to because I don’t think that I ever will. What I mean by this is that the day I’ve achieved everything that I want to will be the day that I have nothing to work towards. I think that there is always a goal we need to work towards to achieve. We should always be in the fight to make ourselves better everyday.

It might sound strange but to me starting a workout routine is like becoming a parent. Think about it. When I first found out that I was going to be a dad I was nervous as I’m sure some of you were too. I tried to learn as much as I quickly as possible but the day my son was born I forgot almost everything I learned. We think we are prepared but in reality we have no idea what we are doing. Some things come naturally and others we kind of learn on the fly. I’m not saying that we as dads just stand there and wing it but for the most of us we don’t know how to handle things until they actually happen. We try to be prepared for just about anything to protect our kids. We seek advice from our parents and anybody else we trust enough to give us advice on how to teach our kids. It’s almost the same when we go to the gym for the first time. We don’t know how to do this or that. We start with what we know and build off it. We don’t have the same endurance that we did when we were younger but we work hard to get back there. We can also seek out help from others who have been in our same situation before. I know being a parent is hard work just like getting back in shape is hard work but with the right mindset and determination we can do both.

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Last thing to end this is you have to be the one to put in the work because no one else is going to do it for you. Now get up get out there and get after it.

10 books that will help you become a better dad #3


The Dad’s Edge: 9 Simple Ways to Have: Unlimited Patience, Improved Relationships, and Positive Lasting Memories by Larry Hagner

 Larry‘s book covers topics that real dads want to know more about. It’s not one of those books that just covers things that aren’t actual issues for most people. This isn’t written for a strawman. It’s by a real dad who’s in the middle of the struggle of parenting and shares in that journey with us.

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10 books that will help you become a better dad #2


The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively by Gary Chapman

Every one of our children is different and they all need to be shown love differently. Knowing each child and how they need to be loved is an important part of being a good dad. Knowing how our kids need to be loved is also helpful in knowing the best way to discipline each child.

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Popular books for kids

Hey, dads! I just wanted to share some popular books for kids on Amazon. If you’re like me, you’re trying to keep up with all the reading your kids do by having fresh and interesting books for them to dig into. I get most of my kids’ books on Amazon because I get free shipping with Prime. What are some of your kids’ favorite books? Share in the comments below!